Part 1 involves me looking out the window and squinting my eyes so that I can see the tarmac, but not the body of the plane. As the we accelerate down the runway, I pretend I’m the Flash, running 200 miles per hour without taking an extra breath.
Part 2 begins once the wheels leave the pavement. At first, it went like this:
On a recent trip, I realized my ritual was changing yet again. Instead of the prayer and concern, I looked out the window at the rapidly shrinking mountains and thought, “I would love for this plane to crash.”
I didn’t just think it. I felt it. I imagined hurtling toward the ground and experienced a sense of glad relief instead of fear. Not only would I escape this life, but it would be an accident. No one could blame me for giving up or avoiding my responsibilities as a parent or a human being. It would be perfect.
I also realized that gladness and plane crashes should not go together and decided to look for counseling when I returned home. I found a great one and we are talking about the possible causes and how to fix my head. I haven’t quite resolved the misplaced gladness thing yet--it comes and goes.
Nonetheless, the experience caused me to wonder how strange and fascinating it is to be human:
After much pondering, it occurred to me that the unfathomable understanding I’ve gained has a name. We usually call it empathy.
Part 2 begins once the wheels leave the pavement. At first, it went like this:
- Realize that sometimes planes crash and it’s almost always unexpected.
- Pray to God that this plane will not crash.
- Think about how much I love my wife and children.
- Tear up over how much I already miss them, especially my wife.
On a recent trip, I realized my ritual was changing yet again. Instead of the prayer and concern, I looked out the window at the rapidly shrinking mountains and thought, “I would love for this plane to crash.”
I didn’t just think it. I felt it. I imagined hurtling toward the ground and experienced a sense of glad relief instead of fear. Not only would I escape this life, but it would be an accident. No one could blame me for giving up or avoiding my responsibilities as a parent or a human being. It would be perfect.
I also realized that gladness and plane crashes should not go together and decided to look for counseling when I returned home. I found a great one and we are talking about the possible causes and how to fix my head. I haven’t quite resolved the misplaced gladness thing yet--it comes and goes.
Nonetheless, the experience caused me to wonder how strange and fascinating it is to be human:
- How is it that something so wrong can feel so right?
- Why is it possible to know that escape is a bad idea in so many ways, but at the same time perceive it as ideal?
- Why does nonsense sometimes make so much sense?
After much pondering, it occurred to me that the unfathomable understanding I’ve gained has a name. We usually call it empathy.